Wedding Guest List Test: "To Invite or Not"

This quiz is designed to help you make clear, confident decisions about who belongs on your guest list — without guilt, pressure, or second-guessing.

How it works: Answer each question honestly. Choose the option that feels closest to your situation. Then tally your score at the end.

The Quiz

1. When you imagine this person at your wedding, how do you feel?

1. A. Genuinely excited to celebrate with them (3 points)

2. B. Neutral — it feels polite or expected (2 points)

3. C. Slightly uneasy or obligated (1 point)

4. D. Stressed, tense, or distracted by their presence (0 points)

5. 2. When was the last time you had a meaningful conversation with them?

   • A. Within the last 6 months (3 points)

   • B. Within the last year (2 points)

   • C. Over a year ago (1 point)

   • D. You honestly can’t remember (0 points)

6. 3. If your wedding were cut in half tomorrow, would this person still make the list?

   • A. Absolutely, no question (3 points)

   • B. Probably, but I’d have to think about it (2 points)

   • C. Maybe, depending on numbers (1 point)

   • D. No, they’d be cut (0 points)

7. 4. Does this person actively support your relationship?

   • A. Yes — they’ve shown it consistently (3 points)

   • B. Generally supportive but not very involved (2 points)

   • C. Indifferent or passive (1 point)

   • D. Critical, dismissive, or unsupportive (0 points)

8. 5. If they couldn’t attend, how would you feel?

   • A. Genuinely disappointed (3 points)

   • B. A little bummed, but fine (2 points)

   • C. Indifferent (1 point)

   • D. Relieved (0 points)

9. 6. Are you inviting them primarily because of family pressure or expectation?

   • A. No — this is fully our choice (3 points)

   • B. Slight influence, but still our decision (2 points)

   • C. Mostly pressure-driven (1 point)

   • D. Entirely obligation-based (0 points)

10. 7. If you ran into this person a year from now, would you be glad they were part of your wedding day?

    • A. Yes — without hesitation (3 points)

    • B. Probably (2 points)

    • C. Unsure (1 point)

    • D. No, not really (0 points)

11. Scoring Your Results

    Add up your total points.

    18–21 points

    Definitely Invite

    This person belongs on your guest list. They are part of your present life, support your relationship, and will add warmth to your day.

    13–17 points

    Invite If Space Allows

    They’re meaningful, but not essential. If your budget and venue allow, great. If not, you can let this one go without guilt.

    8–12 points

    Optional or Conditional

    This is a gray-area guest. Consider:

    • Whether they’ll attend

    • Whether they’re local

    • Whether inviting them creates stress or ease

12. These are often the first names trimmed when lists tighten.

    0–7 points

    Do Not Invite

    This invitation is driven by obligation, pressure, or habit — not connection. It’s okay to protect your peace. Your wedding is not a family reunion or networking event.

    A Final Note (Important)

    Your wedding guest list is not a measure of kindness, loyalty, or character. It’s a reflection of capacity, intention, and priorities at a specific moment in time.

    You are allowed to:

    • Change your mind

    • Protect your energy

    • Choose presence over pressure